Here is alovely insightful piece, from http://www.creativewellness.com.au/stories.htm The author is Ellie Large

COMES THE DAWN

After a while you learn the subtle difference between

holding a hand and chaining a soul,

and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning,

and that company doesn't mean security,

and you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts,

and presents aren't promises,

and you begin to accept your defeats

with your head held high and your eyes open,

with the grace of a woman, [adult]

not the grief of a child ,

and you learn to build all your roads on today

because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans,

as futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn that

even sunshine burns if you get too much....

so you plant your own garden and

decorate your own soul,

instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

and you learn that you really can endure

that you really are strong

and you really do have worth

and you learn and you learn

and with every goodbye

you learn some more.